Dealing With a Break Up and Moving On
Breaking up is never easy. When someone gets seriously involved romantically with someone, they invest time, love, care and effort – things money cannot buy.
Dealing with a break up is so difficult especially when one gets constantly reminded about the things the couples have been doing: waking up every day with the thought that the partner is just there, the parks or the mall where the couples usually go, the hobbies they normally do, the food they enjoy doing and the people they go around with.
The effort of moving on should be done gradually; and to start this, the above mentioned activities, places and people should be avoided in a short span of time. This is to help one forget.
Dealing with a break up is also a form of grieving for a loss – a loss of someone who has been a big part of your life. In doing so, one must undergo a couple of things based on the normal psychological responses which is denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. This is a clear explanation on why and how people are acting that way.
Denial is when the couple still cannot recognize the fact that the relationship is over. It is possible that they would make believe that the problem can still be solved, or that this is just another ‘cool off’ phase. They can be mad at each other, to the situation they are into, to other people around or even to themselves. Since they are furious, they can do things they do not really intend to. This is the time wherein people around them should extend their greatest effort to understand them. During the bargaining part, one or both of the couple would offer changes to compromise one another. This stage can determine whether it is really over or not. Dealing with a break up can really be depressing. Isolation and changes in normal activities of daily living can really be apparent. No matter how long it may take, everyone hopes that the affected party might be able to accept things as they are and be able to move. This may take a lot of strength and combined effort from themselves as well as their support systems.